Monday, February 22, 2010

Introducing Mr. Soy (Sucker of the Year)


As we continue this journey, it is now time to introduce you to


Mr. Soy (Sucker of the Year)


Mr. Soy is BB's significant other and the father of one of her children. BB and Mr. Soy go way back, they were high school sweethearts. They were on again off again for years. Then BB met my husband and married him, but continued to be "friends" with Mr. Soy. Conveniently, Mr. Soy was available to console BB immediately following the divorce and two years later out pops a baby. Unfortunately for Mr. Soy, BB is the mother of his only child.


Mr. Soy has admittedly never been faithful to BB, but what does that matter because apparently BB hasn't either. Mr. Soy and BB's relationship is what you would call dysfunctional. Because their relationship is dysfunctional, it blows their mind when other relationships don't work in the same dynamic. Mr. Soy is a year or two younger than BB and will stay with BB through ANYTHING. Please allow me to provide examples:


1. BB constantly puts him down.

2. BB has physically abused him

3. BB has cut him with knives as well as his mother

4. BB always threatens to take their child away from him

5. BB broke off their engagment to pursue reconcilation with my husband while living and being supported by Mr. Soy

6. BB always claims to be single, even posting other males pictures on her social pages

7. BB only refers to Mr. Soy as her "baby daddy"


The list is much longer, but those are just a few examples. Mr. Soy allows BB to be a stay at home mother while he works two jobs. Mr. Soy will work those two jobs, pay for two kids that aren't his, pay for BB, pay for his own child, and still come home to a dirty home that he has to assist in cleaning.


I sometimes believe Mr. Soy thinks it would be easier to keep BB. Of course he has seen the trouble BB puts my husband through and he has experienced some of it hisself, but at what point will he decide it's just not worth it to stay?

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Introducing Ms. Bitter Bitch


And so my story begins.... There are several characters that play major roles in my story, so let's start out by introducing them.

Ms.BitterBitch (BB for short)

BB is the mother of my stepkids and the ex-wife of my husband. She is a self proclaimed "Baby Mama" and as you would imagine is straight from the "hood". Don't worry because BB is very proud of where she comes from and has no ambition to be any better. Oh she'll fool the outside individual and you may think for a moment that she's a straight shooter, but when you don't have class its hard to keep up the pretense for long.

BB has been divorced from my husband for 8 years and still holds onto the hope that someday he and her will reconcile despite having been in a relationship with another man for 7 years and having a child by said man as well as the obvious clearly my husband has a wife. Is this speculation on my part you ask? The answer is no because you see BB has informed me and has informed her Significant Other (whom I'll introduce you to shortly) that her desire is to reconcile with my husband. Her strategy for achieving her goal is interesting nonetheless...In her mind she must have said

"hmmm...I'll be as manipulating, vindictive, rude, nasty, disrespectful, etc.... and then he'll want me back"

BB does not work because she's been going to "college" for the past 8-9 years... you see she may have worked a total of 2-3 years during a total of the 7 years I've known her. She feels its other people's responsibility to take care of her and her three kids. Oh don't worry, its not just my husband, her significant other, or I that assist in caring for her and her kids, its you (yes reader you) as well.

BB must be very young you might think considering the behaviour I just described...unfortunately BB is well in her 30's and I'm sure stuck in her ways.